When it comes to weddings, we know a lot of couples Pinterest their ideal décor, bouquet and dress. We know you work hard on your invites and guest list and dance playlist, but one thing that often gets overlooked is the ceremony. When you stand up in front of all the people you love most in the world, what will you say? And just as important, what will your officiant say?

We have been performing weddings for couples since 2005. We have done all types of weddings over this time and the one thing we can say is that putting your personality and your story into your ceremony takes it from being anyone’s wedding to being something unique to the two of you.

So here are 3 helpful tips to make your ceremony shine:
 

1 - Personalize!
Work with an officiant who will allow you to choose or influence what is being said during your ceremony. Choose readings, themes or vows that are meaningful to you and will make you more comfortable. This is especially true when it comes to your vows- you should know ahead of time what promises you’ll be making.

 

2 - Plan!
Think about how you want the ceremony to feel for you and your guests. You know your guests best and connecting with an officiant who will be able to draw people in is key. What ‘vibe’ are you going for? Relaxed? Romantic? Formal? Fun and light-hearted? Talk this over with your officiant beforehand so they act, dress, and speak in a way that fits with your vision for the day!

 

3 - Practice!
Make sure your officiant will be there for your rehearsal. Rehearsals are all of the fun of the wedding with none of the pressure. They’re a trial run for where to walk and stand but they are also often a trial run for the feelings. Couples who are nervous or emotional during their rehearsal often feel more relaxed during the ceremony. They can focus on the moment because they know what’s happening and what’s going to be said. And a good officiant can help a direct a rowdy wedding party into their spots to ensure a smooth wedding day.

 

Most of all- have fun! Weddings don’t need to be long and drawn out to be meaningful. Hopefully the wedding party and the guests all feel like they’ve shared in something really special- and then get on with the celebration!

 

Officiants are generally booked 6-12 months in advance, so try to book early to find your best fit. We’d love to meet for coffee and talk about how to make your day shine.